New Year, Same Arguments
For many couples 2020 is a fresh start, brimming with endless possibilities. If you’re like any of my clients at our Ft Lauderdale office, then you’ve fallen into the “New Years Resolution trap.” We all have a strong start with a laundry list of goals we want to achieve for ourselves and our marriage. However, after a couple of dedicated weeks, we begin to miss gym appointments, and date night inevitably gets put on the back burner.
If you’re sick and tired of having the same old arguments, then you’ve come to the right place! As a relationship counselor, I specialize in helping individuals and couples to transform their lives. Check out my approach to kick start the lasting change you’ve been looking for. No more failed resolutions or broken promises. Just results! Are you ready?
Remember that old saying, Rome wasn’t built in a day. Laying the foundations for a happier and more fulfilling relationship takes time, dedication, and effort. Setting unrealistic expectations like, “never fighting over the dishes again,” is only going to guarantee that you and your partner will fail. Can I let you in on a little secret? Every couple fights! It’s only normal that two people won’t agree on everything.
In couples therapy sessions, I help spouses construct realistic expectations, that help to reestablish key tenants of successful relationships like trust and nonviolent communication. So, when disagreements do arise, you can both go back to your trusty relationship toolkit and come to a resolution together.
Don’t beat yourself up
I like to tell my clients that the road to success is not linear. Essentially, expect to take some huge leaps forward as well as make a few mistakes along the way. Despite what your social media feed might tell you, no relationship is perfect. While it would be nice, your first one-hour session is not going to “fix your marriage,” overnight. We’ll start discovering the root causes of why you and your partner may be bickering, and I’ll probably even give you both homework to get the ball rolling. I’m not expecting you to be perfect, I am, however, expecting you to be open, honest, and willing to work hard to build the relationship you both deserve. To reframe each “failure” as an opportunity to learn and grow stronger together.
Ask for Help
Chances are, if you’re reading my blog, you’ve been thinking about the idea of marriage counseling for a while, but just haven’t pulled the trigger. Every time you get close, to booking a session a little voice probably whispers, “you don’t really need counseling. Your relationship isn’t THAT bad. Plus, what if your friends and family find out, what will they think…” Our ego has a way of telling us “white lies,” to protect our self-image. I can assure you, there’s nothing wrong with asking for help. Avoiding the problems in your relationship because you’re scared to try something new, or what others may think, will only exacerbate the problem and could eventually come back to bite you. Big time.
In the end, the the choice is up to you. I’m always here to help! But only if you’re ready for it. I can promise you that if you’re serious about turning around your relationship and your life this year, you’ll want to have a coach in your corner to help you when things get rocky. Give me a call and let’s make 2020 the best year for you and your partner, together!