You’ve read the books.
You’ve journaled.
You’ve meditated, reflected, maybe even sat in some really hard therapy sessions.
So why does it still feel like you’re running into the same internal wall?
If that question has echoed in your mind lately, you’re not alone. Many people who are committed to healing eventually come to this uncomfortable moment:
“I’ve worked so hard on myself… so why do I still feel stuck?”
Here’s what I want you to know:
Feeling stuck doesn’t mean you’re failing. It usually means you’re ready to go deeper.
1. Your growth may have outpaced your nervous system.
It’s entirely possible to know what a healthier relationship or mindset looks like…
…while your body still reacts in old, protective ways.
You might intellectually understand boundaries or self-compassion, but your nervous system—still holding onto old trauma or survival strategies—hasn’t caught up. That’s not a shortcoming. It’s biology. It's your body saying, "This part still needs a little more love, attention, and safety."
In my work with clients (and in ketamine-assisted psychotherapy), I often see that real change happens not just in the mind—but in the body, too.
2. Unconscious family patterns may still be playing out.
No matter how much self-awareness you build, many of us carry the legacy of unspoken family roles, attachment wounds, and generational patterns.
These are the deeper systemic forces that shaped how we learned to love, protect ourselves, or suppress parts of our identity. And they often linger long after we’ve done surface-level healing.
That’s where tools like Internal Family Systems (IFS), systems therapy, and somatic work become powerful. They help us go beneath insight and into the places where change truly sticks.
3. You might be emotionally fatigued.
Healing fatigue is real. There’s often an unspoken pressure in wellness circles to always be “working on yourself,” fixing, improving, doing more.
But sometimes the most healing thing you can do… is rest.
Not everything broken needs fixing right now. Not every feeling needs to be processed this minute. Sometimes, your system needs gentleness and permission to just be.
What If "Stuck" Isn’t a Problem… But a Signal?
Feeling stuck can be a frustrating and disheartening experience—but what if it’s also an invitation?
A nudge toward a different kind of healing.
Less pushing.
More softening.
Maybe it’s time to shift from self-improvement to self-connection.
From managing symptoms to actually meeting the parts of you that feel unseen or unheard.
A Gentle Practice to Try
If this resonates with you, here’s a small reflection you can try today:
Take a breath and ask yourself:
What part of me feels unheard, unloved, or unsafe right now?
Don’t try to fix it.
Just listen.
Sometimes the simple act of noticing is enough to begin a shift.
Ready to Go Deeper?
If you’re in a season of “stuck,” that’s not a sign you’re broken. It’s a sign that something deeper is asking to be witnessed—often with support.
Whether you’re navigating relationship challenges, anxiety, burnout, or just that quiet sense that something inside needs care… you don’t have to go it alone.
I offer individual therapy, couples work, and ketamine-assisted psychotherapy—both in-office and through retreats. If you’re curious about taking a deeper step into your healing journey, I’d love to connect.
👉 [Schedule a free consultation call with me here]
Warmly,
Dr. Corinne Scholtz
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist | KAP Provider