Couples & Marriage Counseling
As a therapist, I receive calls and see couples nearly every day who desire effective communication with their partner.
Many couples need to heal from emotional wounds and repair current arguments and disagreements before they can find more satisfaction from the relationship.
Topics that couples and marriage therapy can address include how to recover from betrayal, lack of trust, insecurity, regrettable conversations, arguments, sexual intimacy and emotional closeness, and address common mental filters we all fall into that prevent us from seeing possibilities and more.
How to Get The Most From Your Couples Therapy
Couples are often uncertain what to expect from the process of couples therapy. They are not sure of what to expect of the therapist or even if the therapist has any expectations of them. I have found most couples approach therapy with the notion that each person will describe their distress, and somehow the therapist will assist them to create a happier, more functional, relationship. However, most people hope their partner will do most of the learning in problem areas.
The major aim of therapy is increasing your knowledge about yourself, your partner and the patterns of interaction between you. Therapy becomes effective as you apply new knowledge to break ineffective patterns and develop better ones. The key tasks of couples therapy are increasing your clarity about: • The kind of life you want to build together • The kind of partner you aspire to be in order to build the kind of life and relationship you want to create • Your individual blocks to becoming the kind of partner you aspire to be • The skills and knowledge necessary to do the above tasks.
A powerful approach to your couple’s therapy sessions is for each person to do the following before each session:
1. Reflect on your objectives for being in therapy.
2. Think about your next step that supports or relates to your larger objectives for the kind of relationship you wish to create or the partner you aspire to become.
Working through these struggles with a therapist who provides emotionally focused therapy (EFT) can help provide clarity as to what is happening between people in a deeper and significant way. Healing, building and securing emotional connection, and understanding the painful patterns that you and your spouse fall into are all a part of our couples therapy. You will learn about how you and your partner intimately work and what those fights really mean.
Ready to schedule a therapy session? Fill out the form to the right or simply give me a call. Text messages welcome – please include First and Last name and best time to reach you.
“Dr Scholtz gets it! She is a very insightful and skilled therapist who is both knowledgeable & compassionate.
I contacted Dr Scholtz when I was at an extremely low point with my inner life. I had been going through much change and a major life transition. I was emotional, filled with anxiety and unable to deal with my issues effectively. From the first session forward, she has been able to get to the heart of the matter, helped me see myself more clearly and collaborated with me to find viable solutions, specifically focused on my personal situation. I highly recommend Dr. Scholtz, especially to anyone undergoing emotional or relationship issues.”
Knowing Your Relationship Patterns Helps To Create Emotional Connection & Prevent Fights!
Challenges that couples present to a therapist often include doubt about the relationship, emotional distance, resentment, anger, the consequences of betrayal, experiencing romantic feelings for someone outside the marriage, alcoholism and drug addiction, sexual incompatibilities, parenting clashes, a lack of passion and romance, career and money struggles, power imbalances, issues of fairness and more. Learn more about what to expect during your first couples therapy session.