Do We Need Couples Therapy?
If you’re anything like the rest of us, then you’ve probably quietly asked yourself this question many times before working up enough courage to even say it out loud to your partner. It’s normal! For many of us, the idea of couples therapy sounds like a lot like “relationship life support.” But that isn’t true.
Whether you’ve been married for decades or you and your partner are just starting out, think of couples therapy as an incredibly effective tool for building and maintaining a strong relationship.
At our Fort Lauderdale office, we work with real people to overcome situations, like these…
Discussions that escalate into arguments filled with blame, criticism, and defensiveness
Diminishing trust, passion, or love and intimacy
Feeling unfulfilled and alone, despite your relationship
Seeing signs of a physical or emotional infidelities
Arguing over finances
Parenting causing daily stresses
And that’s just the tip of the iceberg. The truth is, even the strongest relationships need help from time to time. There’s no shame in asking for it when you start to see the signs.
Together we can identify the current issues that are chipping away at your relationship. There’s no room for blame or finger-pointing when we have the necessary tools to repair unhealthy communication patterns and establish trust.
Are you ready to take the first step?
You don’t have to keep having the same arguments over and over again. In fact, you can stop the cycle today. It all starts by booking an appointment. Fill out the form to the right or simply give me a call. You can even text if that’s easier; just include First and Last name and the best time to reach you. I’m ready, whenever you are. Talk to you soon!
Keep The Spark In Your Relationship Alive!
Do you want to make sense of your fights? Feeling disconnected from your partner?
All couples argue, and while some argue more than others, it’s not the arguing that predicts relationship dissatisfaction or divorce, it’s the way we argue. There is such a thing as a ‘good’ fight that can bring you closer to one another.
As a therapist, I receive calls and see couples nearly every day who desire effective communication with their partner.
Many couples need to heal from emotional wounds and repair current arguments and disagreements before they can find more satisfaction from the relationship. Healing, building and securing emotional connection, and understanding the painful patterns that you and your spouse fall into are all a part of our couples therapy. You will learn about how you and your partner intimately work and what those fights really mean.
Topics that couples and marriage therapy can address include how to recover from betrayal, lack of trust, insecurity, regrettable conversations, arguments, sexual intimacy and emotional closeness, and address common mental filters we all fall into that prevent us from seeing possibilities and more.
How to Get The Most From Your Couples Therapy
Couples are often uncertain what to expect from the process of couples therapy. They are not sure of what to expect of the therapist or even if the therapist has any expectations of them. I have found most couples approach therapy with the notion that each person will describe their distress, and somehow the therapist will assist them to create a happier, more functional, relationship. However, most people hope their partner will do most of the learning in problem areas.
The major aim of therapy is increasing your knowledge about yourself, your partner and the patterns of interaction between you. Therapy becomes effective as you apply new knowledge to break ineffective patterns and develop better ones. The key tasks of couples therapy are increasing your clarity about: • The kind of life you want to build together • The kind of partner you aspire to be in order to build the kind of life and relationship you want to create • Your individual blocks to becoming the kind of partner you aspire to be • The skills and knowledge necessary to do the above tasks.
A powerful approach to your couple’s therapy sessions is for each person to do the following before each session:
1. Reflect on your objectives for being in therapy.
2. Think about your next step that supports or relates to your larger objectives for the kind of relationship you wish to create or the partner you aspire to become.
Ready to schedule a therapy session? Fill out the form to the right or simply give me a call. Text messages welcome – please include First and Last name and best time to reach you.
“Dr Scholtz gets it! She is a very insightful and skilled therapist who is both knowledgeable & compassionate.
I contacted Dr Scholtz when I was at an extremely low point with my inner life. I had been going through much change and a major life transition. I was emotional, filled with anxiety and unable to deal with my issues effectively. From the first session forward, she has been able to get to the heart of the matter, helped me see myself more clearly and collaborated with me to find viable solutions, specifically focused on my personal situation. I highly recommend Dr. Scholtz, especially to anyone undergoing emotional or relationship issues.”
Knowing Your Relationship Patterns Helps To Create Emotional Connection & Prevent Fights!
Challenges that couples present to a therapist often include doubt about the relationship, emotional distance, resentment, anger, the consequences of betrayal, experiencing romantic feelings for someone outside the marriage, alcoholism and drug addiction, sexual incompatibilities, parenting clashes, a lack of passion and romance, career and money struggles, power imbalances, issues of fairness and more. Learn more about what to expect during your first couples therapy session.